June 30, 2009

A Question of Bible Knowledge

I recently received this question in an e-mail. It is a common question and of great concern as we seek to reach out to our congregations and invite people to volunteer for programs to provide vital Christian education opportunities.
Thought I'd share my answer with you:

People often hesitate to work in Sunday school ministry because they feel that they do not have the skills or education or Bible knowledge to teach.  Have you noticed a similar dynamic with Bible Song?  Or are people more willing to be part of this ministry? 

I think people who enter our doors will always be “apprehensive” about participating. (that is until we are all Bible scholars!) It’s not so much a curriculum from my perspective, as a way of thinking. We have pretty much been telling parents it’s okay for years to just drop their children off for those of us who love to teach Bible stories so we can do what we love to do.

The problem? Parents have been doing exactly what they are told. Who is telling them about their vital role in teaching faith to their own children and to join us, not drop the kids off? And where in our congregations are we providing “comfortable” places to step in and help adults learn alongside their own children without feeling any obligation whatsoever to teach or be a “Bible expert”. We are just as much at fault as the parents for allowing our system to grow the way it has. Sooooooooooooo…..it’s up to us to changeJ!

What Bible Song provides is a whole new energetic way to invite parents into an opening together with their children and then proceed to role model relationship building and caring groups while we teach them to pray and bless one another at the same time. Then we send them home to “literally” practice at home.

Debbie Streicher is National Director of Children and Family Ministry. She is located in Northern Virginia and happy to address any questions you may have regarding Faith Inkubators’ resources. Please contact her at dstreicher@faithink.com.

Read Again!

The Rev. Neil MacQueen responded to my article from June 26th titled Sunday School Concerns and pointed out that the Barna research in the Wall Street Journal article was misrepresented by the writer. Read the accurate version on Neil’s blog.  

Read more wisdom and get to know the Rev. Neil and his ministry at sundaysoftware.com.

Thanks Neil!

June 26, 2009

Sunday School Concerns

An article in the Wall Street Journal today caught the eye of a friend of mine. He forwarded it to me and I truly feel it is worthy of some attention from all who are passionate about Christian education and actively involved in the frustrating challenges we face in our churches today.

It’s titled “Why Sunday Schools Are Closing”. The author, Charlotte Hays , writes:

The decline in Sunday schools appears to be gradual but steady. A study by the Barna Group indicated that in 2004 churches were 6% less likely to provide Sunday school for children ages 2 to 5 as in 1997. For middle-school kids, the decline was to 86% providing Sunday school in 2004 from 93% in 1997. Similarly, there was a six-percentage-point drop in Sunday schools offered for high school kids -- to 80% from 86%. All in all, about 20,000 fewer churches were maintaining Sunday-school classes. And the future does not look bright: Only 15% of ministers regarded Sunday school as a leading concern. The younger the pastor, the study showed, the less emphasis he placed on Sunday school.

A number of reasons can be given for the decline, including an increasingly secular society and the other demands on the time of the average child. And then there is a content problem. The kind of Sunday-school activities that pleased my generation simply wouldn't fly with today's busier and more sophisticated kids. "A lot of the stuff we did was rote memory," said Mr. Morrison of the Missouri Baptist Convention.

Ultimately, if Sunday school is to thrive, parental involvement is necessary -- somebody has to say, "Go." But who? The Rev. Neil MacQueen, a Presbyterian minister who develops software programs for Sunday schools, cites a crucial factor in the decline of Sunday-school attendance: divorce. On any given Sunday, many children of divorced parents are out of town, visiting "the other" parent.

I particularly zeroed in on the conclusion that parental involvement is necessary. Right on Charlotte! Or should I say “write on”? Thank you for bringing some facts about this challenge to our attention. Those of us working in the Christian ed world are aware of the existing problems, but we definitely need help to get the message across to the leadership in our churches.

I spend most of my days speaking with and answering questions from congregational leaders who would love to see Sunday school come alive and revive it.

The answer I give them from our experience and research at Faith Inkubators is always: “No doubt about it! Parents are the primary role models of the faith for their children. Let’s talk about ways to get them on-board. We have had success, but it’s not going to be easy. It means change, but that change is life-changing for families and for the church!”

Debbie Streicher is National Director of Children and Family Ministry. She is located in Northern Virginia and happy to address any questions you may have regarding Faith Inkubators’ resources. Please contact her at dstreicher@faithink.com.

 

June 25, 2009

Let the Children Come!

As I look back through the archives of stories I’ve written, this one reminded me of the importance of providing faith role models for every child in the congregation. This includes parents and those we call “impact adults”. Sometimes we don’t realize the opportunities we have to “impact” the faith of a child until we hear the stories:

As the congregation grieved alongside David’s parents and family, story after story of a young man who lived life to its fullest was heard. He traveled the world extensively.  Stories from both young and old were filled with David’s love of God. Wherever he traveled, he shared Jesus’ love with all walks of life. In his humanness he wasn’t perfect, but it was clear the message he shared was consistent.

His life was cut short due to a reaction to a medication resulting in liver failure.

Over a thousand friends, family, and relatives came from around the world and were together to celebrate the life of this exceptional young man at his memorial.

                                   

David, in 29 short years, showed his faith through actions and words to countless rugby players, many Korean children to whom he taught English, traveling companions, and friends. Where did he learn to share Jesus’ love?

 
The answer: his parents. His father is the pastor and his mother a school teacher. He was surrounded and nurtured as a child in his faith by family, friends, and the congregation. What was not realized was how very much David shared this special love with others until the stories were told.

The life of one young man had an awesome impact on so many others.

  
Empowering children means empowering parents and other extended family adults to be role models of the faith. Reflecting on the stories heard about David, I knew he had been empowered by family and friends in his congregation because this story is about my congregation. What an awesome task we have before us as congregations to recognize the importance of building intentional role modeling and support for families into our programs and ministries.

 
Recognition of the home as a primary center for nurture and support is a key element.

The connection between church and home is essential.


One of David’s favorite quotes was: “To find happiness, be as a child, play and share, love one another, dance and sing. Somewhere in there you may even find God.”

Sharing God’s love is about playing, sharing, dancing, and singing. It’s about being as a child and being with a child. Because somewhere in there, you’re bound to find God!

 
So, bring it on! Support parents, involve the congregation and let the children come!

But Jesus called for them and said, "Let the little children come to me, and do not stop them; for it is to such as these that the kingdom of God belongs." Luke 16:18


Debbie Streicher is Director of Children and Family Ministry at Faith Inkubators, www.faithink.com.  She can be contacted at dstreicher@faithink.com.

 

June 19, 2009

Family Practice

Escape-to-Egypt

Dr. Mark was president of his church council when I met him a few years ago. He was also a medical doctor involved with family practice. I am reminded of a lesson I learned from him and thought it would be good to share it with you one more time:

After hearing Dr. Mark share his thoughts about family ministry, it was clear to me why he has made time in his busy schedule to take on a leadership role in his congregation. I thought there must be some correlation between his knowledge of treating patients through family practice and his passion to support family ministry in his congregation.

I asked him if he had any thoughts about how the two may be connected. He thought it interesting I should ask. His answer surprised me. He said he originally wanted to be a pediatrician, but found it would be challenging to specialize with just the children when there was a clear need for parents to be healthy themselves. Parents play a major role in the health of their child. After realizing this, Dr. Mark decided to become a family practice doctor. He wanted to treat the whole family.

I appreciated Dr. Mark’s story and after searching for a few definitions, I began to compare the role of the doctor and the role of the church with a few thoughts of my own:

Pediatric doctor: A doctor specialized in focusing on maintaining health and providing medical care for children from birth to late teens.

Sunday school teacher: A teacher in a school, attached to the church, focusing on maintaining spiritual health and providing religious instruction, especially to the young.

Family Practice: Comprehensive medical care that treats the patient in the context of the whole family.

Family Ministry: Comprehensive spiritual care that treats the children and parents in the context of the entire congregation.

As a parent, I had no formal training on what it would take or what it meant to become a parent. I gave very little thought to how life may change until a baby was added to our family. I depended on the doctor to give advice on how I should raise my baby and to make him better when he was ill. I knew it was best to follow directions given to me by the doctor to feed my child healthy food and give him medications if needed. There was no question I was a vital part of my child’s health and I needed to practice the doctor’s advice in our home. When we joined a family practice clinic, it became clear to me the health of our entire family was vital to the health of our baby.

Likewise, I had no formal training on what it would take to be a faith role model for my child. I thought the church would do that! I knew it was best to send my child to Sunday school to learn about Jesus and His love but, I depended on the church to teach my child the faith. Little did I know, it was in my hands. I was not given directions to follow or tools to use at home until our third child was in 2nd grade. It then became clear that the spiritual health of our entire family depended on my husband and me as vital role models for our children.

My conclusion: Our congregations need to begin a family practice where we treat the whole family, not just the children. We need to let parents know it IS their job to be faith role models for their children. We need to place tools in the hands of parents to practice faith in the home and provide comprehensive care for the entire congregation.

As the Rev. Rich Melheim states,
“In reality, there is very little the church can do to teach faith in 52 minutes each week if that faith is not being reinforced in the home the other 10,028 minutes. Parents have been, are and always will be the main faith teachers for their children whether we acknowledge them and choose to support them in their calling or not.”

Setting expectations is a necessity as we look to the future and grow the Body of Christ. There is no question that eating healthy and taking proper medications everyday maintains a healthy body and helps it grow. There is no question that having a spiritual practice everyday is a vital component to maintain spiritual health and grow the “Body”.

How can you begin? “Every Night in Every Home” with these 5 easy steps!

  1. Share Highs & Lows (build relationships)
  2. Read Scripture (go ahead, crack open the Bible at home)
  3. Talk about it! (apply the scripture you read to Highs & Lows, you may be surprised)
  4. Pray (pray for one another)
  5. Bless (physically trace the sign of the cross on one another and say a blessing)

We call this “family practice” the FAITH5 and believe that role modeled every week in every congregation and every night in every home is a healthy step towards growing the “Body”.

Let’s take some advice from Dr. Luke:
In reference to the Wise and Foolish Builders, he writes, “I will show you what he is like who comes to me and hears my words and puts them into practice.” Luke 6:47 (NIV)

Debbie Streicher is National Director of Children and Family Ministry at Faith Inkubators. She is located in Northern Virginia and happy to address any questions you may have regarding Faith Inkubators’ resources. Please contact her at dstreicher@faithink.com.

June 03, 2009

Flexibility and the Aging Church

“The older you are, the less flexible you are.” A friend and I were talking while we were exercising at Curves. Someone who looked to be about age 60+ overheard our talk and said, “It’s so true, the older you get, the less flexible you are, that’s why I’m here working out.”

We grinned and agreed, but what we were talking about wasn’t the physical body. It was the church body. We were expressing opinions about the seemingly less flexible way of thinking of the aged 50+ members in our congregation.

 

As I continued to run in place and go from station to station at Curves, I began to think more about the body. What the woman said about her body being less flexible does seem to be true of the “church body”. If we can become more flexible physically by exercising regularly as we grow older, what type of consistent emotional and spiritual exercise would it take to remain flexible in the church to adapt in a changing world?


Bodies change as they age. It’s a given. I know. I’m 55+!


Mainline denominations know. They’re dying!

 

It takes work to get energized and to meet the daily needs of change in our bodies.  Stretching and exercise gives us energy and helps us stay flexible. What would it take to be a little more “flexible” in the congregation? My guess is the answer is the same: stretching, bending, and exercise.

 

The definition of flexibility is: The popular term for the ability to easily bend an object or the ability to adapt to different circumstances.

 

Consistent daily and weekly exercise is the key. In fact, we have to exercise even more frequently as we age to remain flexible. The more we bend and stretch, the more flexible we become and the easier it is to adapt to our bodies as they change.

 

In the context of the church body, it would make sense for us to become familiar with what causes change as the church grows older. What would happen if we became more flexible in our thinking on a regular basis?

 

In the church, building relationships is important.


Some individual steps to take when beginning to exercise the church body:

  1. Stretch beyond the circle of people you already know and get to know at least 5 more people who are younger than you are and 5 more older.  
  2. Bend over and say hello to the 3 year old.
  3. Stretch your hand out to someone you’ve never seen before, and if they don’t speak your language, smile!

Studies show that you are never too old to reverse the reduced level of flexibility that comes with age. I’d like to believe this to be true of the church also. In relation to our aging mainline denominations, it’s not too late to reverse the reduced level of tolerance with today’s challenges. After all, it’s the world of our children and grandchildren.

What will our legacy be?

Bottom line: The more we exercise, the more energy and enthusiasm we have. It’s time we reflect on the body of the church. The end result of regular and consistent stretching and bending is energy and enthusiasm. Originally an enthusiast was a person possessed by  God. (“en theo” meaning “in God”)

Hmmm……what would it look like if the body of the church were “possessed by God?  Feel like stretching and bending a little? I dare you!

It’s sure making a difference in my life.

Debbie Streicher is National Director of Children and Family Ministry. She is located in Northern Virginia and happy to address any questions you may have regarding Faith Inkubators’ resources. Please contact her at dstreicher@faithink.com.



June 02, 2009

Involving Preschool Age in Bible Song

We have found that churches using Bible Song have begun to include the preschool ages. As a result, we’d like to answer questions and give you a few tips and ideas we’ve added and learned from others who have involved preschoolers.

What does Opening and Closing look like when little ones are involved?

The sounds and excitement of a Bible Song Opening are attractive to most small children. With parents in tow and a lap to sit on or a hand to hold, small children can see, feel, and join in the fun.

It’s a good idea to have some shakers or noisemakers on hand in a basket for small hands to shake and rattle as the Books of the Bible Songs are sung or during the theme scripture song.

Preschool age enjoy imitating and when it is time to learn how to sign the verse, they can be shown two or three signs and will imitate motions very well.

Prayer time is a good time to role model quiet time for all ages and for Bible Song, little ones can begin to learn a response also. The prayer response is always part of the scripture verse for the day. Repeating it at least three times and even adding one or two of the key words in sign language helps little ones get involved in the prayer response.

During Closing, the sound of the theme scripture song draws small children back into the gathering place. Younger ages handle consistency very well and in fact thrive on it. Drawing them back to the same place for a Closing each week is a ritual for them that they look forward to.

Quiet time for prayer is introduced and if possible lowering lights or preceding prayer time with an “inhale”, “exhale” exercise gets all ages on-board and little ones join right in with youth and adults to do the same.

The blessing is always a favorite for small children. We hear this time and time again. There is no better time in life to introduce blessing one another physically with the sign of the cross. Little ones not only imitate this, but look forward to this special part of closing time.

There will always be young ones who can’t sit still and parents who are so stressed that a child in their hands is too much on certain days.

If there are no other adults to rescue a parent and be the extra hands, we have found it is good to have a nursery available.

Our goal? To place tools in the hands of parents to realize their role as faith guide for their children, help role model it for them once a week, and invite them to practice the same in their home. 

The most important ingredient?  We want to provide an atmosphere that says, “I like being here.” “Someone is listening.” “I want to come back” for both the parent and the child.


What do the little ones do during Art Attack small group time?

Small group time for preschool age may be one or two adults/youth with a small group of children or include parents. This is a decision to be made by each individual congregation. We have found that a group of 4 to 6 children is best at this age.

Smaller is definitely better for the children and for retaining volunteers!

Some suggestions for activities with little hands and hearts in mind:

1.Take the black and white He Qi artwork on the front cover of the hand out and enlarge it. In the group, ask the children what they see and take turns posing like the people or animals/things. Then invite them to color it and hang it up so the story can be retold each week as you work your way through the Bible.  After coloring, the pages can be included digitally in a future Pwr Pt for all to see.

2.Use the signing DVD and practice signing with the tutorial version with the children. Then do the song version and invite the children to sign along with it. There is hardly ever enough time in large group opening for the little ones to “get it” in a short period of time. They could learn one a week ahead and teach it next week for opening.

3.Print out the memory cards on cardstock, laminate them, (both He Qi art and Cartoons) and use them for games. The most basic one is mentioned in the Art Attack suggestions and is a match card game. You could also make up a game. Example: Enlarge the He Qi woodcut from the front page of each Hand Out. Tape them on the walls in different places. Give the children several cards each, and invite them to match their card with the artwork on the wall.

4.Make play dough and after using a journal (or the same story from a Children’s picture Bible) to read the story, give each child a piece of play dough. Choose an object or person from the lesson to make or talk about and start making it while you are talking to the children. Invite them to make it along with you or make something of their own. Ask them to tell you what they made. Invite the children to pose with their creation and take a digital picture. Most small children enjoy posing and smiling for pictures and this gives them something to contribute to a future presentation.
 
5.Use newsprint. Roll it out on the table and invite each child to use crayons or markers and draw as you retell the story. Take time to share what each child drew. At this age, one never quite knows what is drawn until asked!
 

6. If there is access to the internet, use a laptop computer in small groups and play games together found at FINKlinks online. The games online are definitely geared to little ones.

7. An idea from Peter Eckerman’s congregation in Australia: Dress children in costumes and pose like the people in the story. Take pictures and for week two of the same scripture story, insert the photos of the children in costume in the cartoon on the Pwr Pt and retell the story. It definitely holds their attention and they remember the story. 3 year olds are a challenge on this one sometimes, but the 4-5 year olds love it.

8. Spend time at the beginning to ask about Highs & Lows. In the cases of little ones we usually ask “How are you?” and ask what they did this week in preschool. What was your favorite thing to do this week? Who is your best friend? What did you do with your friend this week? At this age level when sharing relationships smaller groups are best. Invite parents and/or other adults to join for just the first 10 minutes to accomplish this relationship building piece.

9. If there is not a large group closing, it’s important to role model prayer and blessings. This age group especially is very good at being lead through doing the same as the leader. In this case, it’s a good thing to allow the last 5 minutes to be a time when you role model: “Take a deep breath” “Inhale”, “Exhale” (repeat until everyone is paying attention), “then fold hands or pose however you’d like to pray and when praying be sure to mention each child’s name. They will be accustomed to this and wait to hear their name. Then take time to begin a blessing by tracing the sign of the cross on each child’s head while saying a blessing. Invite children to bless one another also.

Children love to calm down, listen, and be moved into a calm setting for short periods of time.

10. Last, but not least, adapt the ideas found in the Art Attack Assignments guide for various ages and “preschoolize” them. Send us your ideas to share with others.

Debbie Streicher is National Director of Children and Family Ministry. She is located in Northern Virginia and happy to address any questions you may have regarding Faith Inkubators’ resources. Please contact her at dstreicher@faithink.com.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

May 26, 2009

Life Lines (Faith Stories)

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We’re vacationing in the Cayman Islands. I feel blessed and privileged to make the yearly pilgrimage here with my family. I have traveled to many places in the world, but here is where I feel the most calm and experience the most “quiet times” in my life. Each morning I get up and take about a two mile hike along the beach. It’s very rare that I meet anyone. It’s lovely. I am reminded of God, the Creator.

This year, there was something new on the beach. In the distance, I thought it was a tree full of blackbirds. As I got closer I realized it was a tree full of shoes. Lost flip flops, sneakers, Crocs, and all kinds of shoes were hanging on the tree. Someone had taken the time to hang each one. It is a strange sight to see on the beach. I was so taken by it that after my walk I rode a bike back to the spot and hiked across the dunes to get back to it to take a picture.

I couldn’t help but wonder about all the feet that had filled these shoes. And I couldn’t stop wondering how many stories accompanied these shoes. I will never know because I do not know who the shoes belong to, but I can guarantee there are many stories to be told. It made me reflect on the stories we hold inside and the opportunities we have to share them. I wondered about the people, their stories, and their faith. Where do they live? What’s important in their lives? Do they have a faith story?

From my experience, providing small group settings for people to tell about their lives and having a time and place they can be shared, has grown the number of faith stories told in our congregation. We call them Life Lines. It’s providing the opportunity to share when we recognize God’s work in our lives and give him the glory, honor and praise. I never realized the importance of verbalizing our own faith stories until I witnessed the impact they can have on the lives of others. I used to think they were to be kept quietly to ourselves but have discovered the opposite is true.

It all begins with sharing some Highs & Lows and praying together to praise God for the Highs and ask for His guidance for the Lows. Gathering once a week in community to take time to listen and care makes a difference. Listening to one another, praying, and blessing when we are together changes lives.

We are God’s hands and feet in this world. Next time you don your shoes, think about your faith story. Is it a story someone else needs to hear?                                              
It could be a life line for them.

Debbie Streicher is National Director of Children and Family Ministry. She is located in Northern Virginia and happy to address any questions you may have regarding Faith Inkubators’ resources. Please contact her at dstreicher@faithink.com.

 

 

   

 

May 20, 2009

Cross-Generational in Sunday School

Intergenerational, Cross-generational, all ages, church family…

How many ways can we describe and invite everyone on-board in a Christian education setting?

Statistics show that the church is the last place all 5 generations gather in today’s world.  Many congregations struggle to gather everyone together in a Sunday school setting. It seems some say, “Been there, done that.” Others drop children off and assume Sunday school is for children only.      When we do make the effort to provide for all ages, it is difficult to get people to join us.

So, why even try to get all the ages together?

Try this little experiment to argue for cross-generational learning: Ask people to name a person in their lives who has had an impact on them and whom they would consider to be a faith role model. My guess is they will not name someone their own age. It’s likely that the person named is from another generation and probably an older generation.

Providing opportunities for faith role modeling between the generations is needed.

So, why even try to get all the ages together?                                                                                                                                                       It’s for our future. It’s for the generations to come.

 

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May 18, 2009

Sunday School as Sacred Space

Am I the only Christian educator who gets a little frustrated when during a Sunday school opening I see and hear parents who would rather talk and drink coffee in the background while sending their children up front to “be in Sunday school”?

Have you heard about the little boy who was asked what he wanted to do when he grew up? His answer: “I can’t wait until I grow up to be just like my Mommy and Daddy. Then I won’t have to go to Sunday school anymore!”

Ouch! As a Christian educator with a passion for family ministry and focusing on the dynamics of parents as role models of faith for their children, this is the last thing I want to hear.                 Unfortunately, we can understand why this child can’t wait to be like Mommy and Daddy.

I feel I am not alone in my thinking as I have heard from others who have expressed the same scenario and experienced similar frustrations within their own congregations.  My concern is the message we may be sending to our children about the role we all play in a learning setting when this happens. Although I appreciate the true need for parents to have time to talk with one another and the importance in providing a fellowship opportunity for all, I’m wondering how we can balance wanting parents to join children in Sunday school and wanting them to find our congregation as a place where they can gather each week, meet others, and build relationships.

 My concern lies in the message we send when we tolerate adults and youth congregating in the background and talking while we are teaching and sharing scripture lessons. This doesn’t happen when we gather in a worship service. Those sharing a scripture lesson and prayer for the day deserve respect. I have the hope that everyone present will honor the words shared and role model the reverence of the time together for all. Can we expect everyone to take at least 15 minutes for an opening and introduction to a lesson to pay attention and be present by sitting together and listening with us, not observing us? I believe it can speak volumes to those entering a room.

As you are reading this, you may think I am challenging our basic understanding of what Sunday school is, but I’d like to suggest we ask ourselves what is happening when we gather together in a place for Christian education. Can we consider this to be sacred space? Is it akin to the worship service?  Does worship only happen in the sanctuary? Can Sunday school happen in the worship space? Can worship happen in the Sunday school place? Is it not the place we teach all ages what worship is?

In the Subject Guide found in the back of my Bible, worship is defined as giving reverence and honor to God. It also references praise and prayer. In my opinion, God deserves our reverence and honor through our praise and prayer no matter where we gather to share His Word.  

My challenge to you is to think about places and spaces you meet in your congregation to praise God and hear His Word. Are they sacred spaces?

Britannica.com’s definition of sacred is: the power, being, or realm understood by religious persons to be at the core of existence and to have a transformative effect on their lives and destinies.

The definition of space according to Merriam -Webster is: a period of time.

In the context and setting of our church buildings, where and when are the times and places you gather all the ages and provide opportunities to experience transformative effects on lives?

Although I know the worship service is our first answer, as a Christian educator, I have also witnessed lives changing and relationships strengthened through prayer and praise for God during a period of time we call Sunday school. It has taken setting expectations and being intentional.

The challenge before us is to help those entering our buildings to feel that transforming love everywhere and create opportunities for this to happen. God’s work happens in amazing ways and in unexpected places. Our work is to provide time for this to happen.

Time for children, parents, and youth…time to praise God together …                                                 then we have our coffee and doughnuts.

I’d enjoy hearing your thoughts about this and what you have experienced.                               

And if you already experience Sunday school as sacred space in your congregation,                              please share how you do it!